Living in the Mystery Message 01/08/12 from Melody
Check out Something to Think About — If You’re Brave, the most recent post to Living in the Mystery at www.MelodyBeattie.com/blog. A guest blogger wrote the important story.
When I clicked the link to the guest blog in an e-mail at 5:30 this (Sunday) morning, what I read jump-started my heart. I didn’t need coffee. It’s a reminder of something I forget: When fully lived, each moment becomes a miracle and a gift.
“When one door closed, another one opened. Or at least a window did,” a friend wrote to me yesterday. Her real questions — the subtext – showed in bold print even though she didn’t type them: When and why did that stop happening?
The big secret? Sometimes we stand, walk, crawl through (or sit in) that dark corridor for longer that we thought possible until the first glimmers of light appear. Then we hope that it’s sunshine and not headlamps from a train we didn’t see coming. It may take ten times longer than we thought is should, but eventually a door will open.
As they say in a group I belong too, “More shall be revealed.”
To get to the post, click the link above or on Blog in the column on the left side of this page. See you there later.
Melody Beattie
January 8, 2012
Hello Melody.
I want to tell you that your book “Co-dependant no more” has been an inspiration and gave me truth and strength to make the important changes so that I could live this one life that God gave me in the most healthy way possible. Married for 35 years to find out that my husband who I loved and thought of as a “boy Scout” was deeply involved with a massage parlor Madam. I felt as if I went to bed with a beautiful front lawn and woke to a cliff. How did this happen to me? I was shattered. I found myself begging him, searching for him in the middle of the night and too many other behaviors indicative of someone with no self worth. I went for therapy and had many people who I could talk to. I found a support group with S-ANON. Working on the twelve steps and having books like the Language of Letting Go were helpful in growing and believing that I didn’t deserve what happened to me and made me long for the continued peace that comes from learning to trust in God and to stop trying to control outcomes. Things are revealed in God’s time and what he does for you is always the best. I am a work in progress but happily mending in spirit and mind. So far, letting go and letting God has proved to be the best choice I have made in life. Living in reality is so much better and more peaceful!
Thank you for you gentle guidance.
Patti
Hi, Patti. Congratulations on all the work you’ve done. It’s a tremendous accomplishment between you and your Higher Power. I love it when people write in with success stories, as it can often give people hope. Plus it (your success story) can be the “came to believe” that people talk about in the 2nd Step. I appreciate your kind words about my work, but you’re the one who deserves the medal. Thanks to you and others like you, the way to recovery is constantly being repaved and widened by the work you do. Best, Melody Beattie
Love your books and you.
Thanks Jeannie. But remember — you’re the one doing the work that changed and continues to change your life. I know information can help — but we’re the ones who take it, integrate, and use it to make our lives work. Best, Melody